OMG! it makes me so mad sometimes, i run into guys and they think oh she must be an easy target looking for something because she has one leg...yes i may be an amputee, but my self esteem is very high and i still have the same standards in men as i did before, i'm not just looking for some cheap thrill...a lot of people will ask me what its like having sex with one leg...i have to let them...it's better because it's less to get in the way! LOL. but seriously Jay i do know what you mean when people come up harrassing or just looking for a cheap thrill...it gets ANNOYING!

I have been warned about devotees by one amputee but he's a weird duck... Now, I'm a 33 year old guy in good enough shape to keep myself in plenty of trouble if I wanted to, smart enough to stay out of most of it, and I think I've got a healthy perspective, I'm active in life etc. So if I wound up with a (devotee) stalker..? Hmmm Batman, I think I would be flattered. But then, in reality, if it did turn out to be some creepy, weird, yucky thing I wouldn't like it. If it got bad, I think I could get myself out of the situation. I've never known anyone, friend or otherwise with a fetish. Some interesting points you bring up Jay, your positive, open-minded approach expanded my horizons on the topic. I don't think it would have to be all bad. And Jasmine, I'm with ya' but on a different page. What I usually get from girls (co-workers, co-volunteers, peers) is "He's half a man... Could I live with/sleep with that...?" I don't have much use for that type of crippled thinking. Anyone who knows me before and after, or simply after I lost the leg will tell you "He's one fun son-of-a-gun."

I've been approached online by men who have told they are devotees and that they are attracted to women with amputations. It's always made me very uncomfortable. It seems different than any other kind of fetish because it has to do with something that clearly sets a person apart from the norm. It's not like a foot fetish or something like that. And women want to be noticed for who they are, and other aspects of their identity than their amputation. If someone is going to be attracted to me I'd rather it not have anything to do with my leg.

So far on this site I haven't noticed anyone who seem sketchy.

I dont think the problem is necessarily the devotees. I think there is more of a challenge with our obsession with those that are able bodied or not amputteed. I know there is such importance with body image and self esteme and our own maintaince of it as Jasmine put it. I cannot believe that inside our own world there are not individuals that have temporary relationships just because these devotees with give us unconditional acceptance. We may not be able to reconcile between what was, to what is now after a later in life amputation.

I don't have a problem with "devs" up to a point. My "point" is out and out stalking. I had one of those. I met him online and we talked about his "interest". I let slip too much information about my location, real name (OK I'm using a fake name even here.) Nothing that wasn't a big secret. I thought I was safe. I wasn't. He showed up on my doorstep one night. Things went from bad to worse in very short order and my wife called 9-1-1. The cops escorted him away and I haven't heard from him since. It turned out he was a government official from Florida. He had flown up here to "meet me".
I make it a point to join various "dev groups" to see just what goes on. Most are harmless, but I'm aware that there are some who are out and out psychos.