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On no soul doth God Place a burden greater than it can bear. It gets every good that it earns, and it suffers every ill that it earns. (Pray:) "Our Lord! Condemn us not if we forget or fall into error; our Lord! Lay not on us a burden Like that which Thou didst lay on those before us; Our Lord! Lay not on us a burden greater than we have strength to bear. Blot out our sins, and grant us forgiveness. Have mercy on us. Thou art our Protector; Help us against those who stand against faith." (Quran 2:236)

All our trials and tribulations are exactly that OUR OWN. Be they resulting from our past actions, or tests to help us recognize our true potential. The first part of the verse is one of my all time favorites. God only assigns a soul something it can cope with. God does not impose upon any soul a duty but to the extent of its ability. Can we doubt God's knowledge of our capacity? Can we even consider terminating our life when God has decreed that we are capable of withstanding the forces that are tormenting us?
As far as regretting our actions in pre-amupted life, y not take it as a wake up call. Seek forgiveness for our slip-ups and vow to try our best to never repeat them. After all to err is human. I pity the people who have not recognized the wake-up calls in their lives, in time enough to make changes.

if you feel the need go ahead lock ur self up in a room and screem. if thats wat it takes. if nothing else it will help with the depression right. and don't think too much into it even the best of us go thru non-social phases. and its ok to take a few steps back so u can suit-up for more progress.

peace ...
may God help us all to overcome our shortcomings.
still_kickin

Hi Amputee Nation, (bear with me this one is kinda long)

I have yet to hear a gimp joke that i find offensive. the same goes for Indian jokes, brown jokes, nerd jokes, FOB jokes, and even Muslim jokes(If the intentions are purely humorous.) Is there any comedy that does not make fun of something or someone? Wrong blog to be saying this on, but I read a shirt that said "It's funny till someone gets hurt, THEN ITS HILARIOUS!". c i can't help myself. Although i promise y'all that will never be the case.

I feel that i may be suffering the repercussions of one such failed attempt at humor. All i said was "how many blonds does it take to..." Which i though was the close to a fairly candid half page email, which answered the question that was asked in the blog. And gave indications to the comic mood i was in while writing the email. What i received today was unexpected to say the least. I was called shall we say lacking, and like all the other (blank) men from past relationships, not ready to face the unwritten truth. wat truth might that b?

I've said it bfore Faith and humor r the 2 things that will help us face adversity. I c humor has failed on all fronts, but i have faith that others will find my light hearted nature more loving and not LUSTing/HATEing.

this was my response...(let me know wat y'all think)

hi again 'Ms Blonde',
u culdnt have said it better. well maybe u cud have...even if u said 'you have a lot to learn.' i wouldnt argue with u. cuz that is the Truth. but when u added 'about women' to the statement i was reminded of something i heard at a party once not too long ago...

hope i don't butcher it...
"a man is walking along a sandy beach and finds a lamp. instinctively he rubs it three times and POOF a great genie appears bfore him. "thnx for freeing me from my prison of 17,000 years oh kind one! I can grant you any three wishes of ur desire." The man Instinctively says "I want to be the richest man in the world" and POOF the genie disappears. The man is left there standing all alone at the beach...thinking about his next two wishes. after several hours of solitude and nervousness, POOF the genie appears a second time, behind him mountains of riches and wealth. Breathing heavy the genie says "the world has changed a lot in the last 17,000 years. I found it very hard to accumulate these treasures for you but as promised here they are. But i am afraid i am spent and cannot go on another quest of such magnitude for you kind master!" The man inconsiderately yells, "Build me a great palace, with walls lined with gold and whose gardens are filled with the most xotic of animals and birds, and the lands of which bear the best fruits and meats." The genie pleads to his new master to ask for 'anyting else as i am to weak from my first quest and i will surely die trying to full fill this request." the man reconsiders his second wish and says "Ok then, oh great spirit, make me all knowledgeble in the affairs of women so that i may understand them." The genie looks at the man and asks "What color wud u want your castle to be sire!"

im 25, i know i have A LOT to learn...im sure uve heard the phrase 'young, dumb, and full of cum' But i assure u my past responses to you were not fueled by 'LOVE/LUST-HATE'I have nothing but respect for women b the color of their hair red, brown, black or blonde. or even if they r bald! my upbringing is in a very sound environment with all the women in our xtended family having the right to choose their own lives, careers and spouses (not to forget houses, cars and clothes in this most materialistic of worlds) I have been taught to look past the appearance of all persons and not judge anyone. most of my female friends, both muslim and non-muslim have always valued my friendship and are capable of disregarding my lame attempts at humor and pulling their leg (pun intended). i hope that you too can c past my apparently failed use of the most generic of comments, against what coincidently are some of the most influential of women in the world.
Introspection is a key component of growth, as one cannot fix any problem one does not recognize the magnitude of.
I do not know the poet Rumi, although i will use my own genie i.e. google to explore his works.
Once again u say that u do not take offense to anything i say, but your tone and use of language says otherwise (U mention 'men putting women down'.) I c that you have already projected an unhealthy image of me in your mind based on a few paragraphs that i wrote, light-heartedly i might add.
If i draw so many words from u by using the 'b' word, i can only imagine wat the 'g' word may involve.
im just a loose tongued creature, who uses humor boldly to break the ice. I do believe in respecting peoples boundaries, and now that i know one sensitive topic i will refrain from its use in future correspondence with you. if there are any other circles that you wud not want to to venture bravely into (for ex. religion, politics, child labor laws...etc) please let me know. Or you can just say steer clear of me and i shall do that.
Ive said it bfore Faith and humor r the 2 things that will help us face adversity. I c humor has failed on all fronts, but i have faith that regardless of my past strike outs, you and i will still hit it off. third times a charm right.
Peace
B'ABE (nice touch by the way)

P.S. If there are any others light weights who are easily offended drop me a note so i know what to aviod in our future convos. OTHERS BE FOREWARNED: JOKESTER ON THE LOOSE!

Ive had this friend request on my site fir about a week now...but the person lists diabetes as the disability. im not trying to b rude or any thing but is not the site called <4? shud that not limit membership to amputees? there are several members who have been amputed as a result of daibetes and many of them r in ma friends list. Doesn't diabetes fall under the umbrella of ailment or dare i say disease?  It can be disabling but is it a disability?

i have no problem making friends with people in the most random of places and situations but this one request has been irking me every time i log on to the site. am i justified in my selectiveness? shud others b too? or shud i just drop this whole thing without giving it any more thought.

im not one to care much about what other people think...im sure several of u have noticed that in my messages/comments to you...i speak my mind and make sure im heard...Im definitely not a selfish guy, but feel THIS site shud be xclusive.

please questions, comments, concerns...hit me up

still_kickin 

im looking to gift ma cousin a book. she lost her right arm in an accident about 6 months ago. this girl is a GENIUS. She went to school for her PhD program on a full paid scholarship with perks. even after her accident she has kept her spirits high and will be joining her professors for a research position in Indias BEST university.

i want to get her a book that will be inspirational/informative/challenging and memorable. My problem is this...IM LAZY and havent read a book in ages...
This is where this great community comes in...it is on all you readers to suggest a good book...

I'll be waiting by the computer for ur reponses.

aBe

hey nation,

has any one read the book

Succeeding Sane: Making Room For Joy In A Crazy World' by Bonnie St. john Deane

let me kno please